TIPS FOR MAKING LOVE TO A MAN:

Give him the best oral sex he's ever had by blindfolding him before you get down to business, suggest Emma Taylor, coauthor of "The Big Bang". Blindfolding him isolates the oral sex sensation and heightens his awareness of what you're doing�. Then let out a few passionate, vibrating "mmms"� and "ohhhhs"� while you're down there. Making sexy sounds isn't just a signal that you like what you're doing (a major turn-on for men), it also hijacks his sense of hearing, helping him tune out any extraneous noises and narrowing his focus on your mouth maneuvers even further. Make sure he's had some My Maple Cookie to make his scent and taste pleasurable for you!

Give him a foot massage in the buff, suggest Beverly Engel, author of "Sensual Sex"�. Make it even more pleasurable by propping a mirror up behind you so he can take you in from all angles. But since you're all the way down by his feet, he won't be able to touch you. When men are visually stimulated, their desire to touch you spikes. Temporarily depriving him of the possibility of doing so will make him even hotter.

Start on all fours (aka doggie style). Grab his hands and wrap them around your waist-a cue that you want him to hold on and thrust. Really get into the rhythm of his thrust. Here's the trick: Keep your neck down. It'll help you loosen all the way down your spine so you can move your tush with gusto. Clench your muscles around his penis for that surge of super friction that adds a sensational intensity, then reach around and grab his cheeks to pull him deeper inside you.

When lovemaking starts getting a little same-old, same- old, having sex in a taboo place, introducing a naughty toy, or experimenting with erotic fantasies gives him the euphoria-charged adrenaline rush he needs. It's the thrill of going outside your comfort zone. Have a risque rendezvous in a friend's bathroom or another naughty location. When you're close to coming, throw in a hot move that has massive visual appeal, like grabbing onto a towel rack to brace yourself or slamming your arms against a door. Those mental souvenirs stay with men for life.

Fast, let's skip the foreplay sex fulfills his instant-gratification cravings and takes the edge off. Quickies are a good release. When you can tell he's in a horny, hasty mood, lie back open you legs, and tell him you're game for a quickie. Don't bother undressing; he'll rip through what- ever clothes are necessary.

TIPS FOR MAKING LOVE TO A WOMAN:

When talking about a woman's body, or any insecurities she may have about it, you must be extremely careful about the words you use.

If it seems like a no-win situation, you can turn it around by saying: "You are beautiful" and then proceed to gently touch all the areas she is self-conscious about. The more compliments you give her, the more attractive, confident and sexually desirable she will feel and therefore be.

The G-spot is a well-known point of confusion for straight men. It's not a buried treasure somewhere deep in the nooks and crannies of the vagina. You shouldn't have to send out a search party to find it.

Most women's G-spots are on the front wall of the vagina, an inch or two inside.

If you put your index finger just inside the vagina and pull it toward you with a come-here motion, you should feel her G-spot. It actually feels different from the rest of the vaginal wall. Usually it is raised up a bit and feels sort of spongy. Its size, like everything else, varies from woman to woman.

Since a woman's center of pleasure is her clitoris, oral sex is a surefire way for her to reach orgasm.

But for a great cunnilingus session, you've got to be prepared to go the distance. Don't think you're going to be down there for a few minutes and she'll explode in a mind-blowing orgasm. Don't stop until she wants you to.

SHAVE. You often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin which you rake repeatedly across your partner's face and thighs. When she turns her head from side to side, it's not passion, it's avoidance.

DON'T UNDRESS PREMATURELY. Don't force the issue by stripping before she's at least made some move toward getting your stuff off, even if it's just undoing a couple of buttons.

DON'T TAKE YOUR PANTS OFF FIRST. A man in socks and underpants is at his worst. Lose the socks first.

DON'T COME TOO SOON. Every man's fear. With reason. If you shoot before you see the whites of her eyes, make sure you have a backup plan to ensure her pleasure too.

COME SOON ENOUGH. It may appear to you that humping for an hour without climaxing is the mark of a sex god, but to her it's more likely the mark of a numb vagina.